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Scott Alexander wrote that the evidence doesn't seem to match the hypergamy hypothesis:

https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/hypergamy-much-more-than-you-wanted

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The Substack "The Nuance Pill" does a good job debunking a lot of these claims as well. Here's their top post: https://nuancepill.substack.com/p/are-dating-apps-facilitating-chadopolies

From the concluding "Summary":

"-Data on dating app outcomes show a high degree of gender parity regarding meeting, dating, have sex, and forming relationships. The distributions of unique dates are also very similar.

-Men outnumber women on dating apps about 3:1. When adjusting for this imbalance, the median match rate for men and women on Tinder evens out. The average woman isn’t matching with a bunch of chads.

-Both men and women have a strong desirability skew, but the people who actually end up exchanging messages and going on dates probably tend to be quite close in terms of their within-gender desirability rank. This is less obvious on swipe apps because for efficiency reasons many men opt for a serial swiping strategy."

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WHERE ARE THE FUCKIBG WOMEN THEN 😭😭😭😭

No one my age with a college degree goes out in Vegas, they’re only on apps, or they’ve been in relationships since high school or early college. Where are the single people? Everyone at bars is over 30

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Believe it or not, they are wondering where the men are.

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The men are at home because 1. We have no money to date. 2. We don’t want to get accused of SA because we approached a women we didn’t know (happened to me). 3. We have no game and we know it. 4. Our last relationship did a number on us and we’re not sure we want another one. 5. Social media has us so confused about what masculinity is and what women are looking for that we are in a state of paralysis. 6. Who we thought were hero’s of masculinity have clearly fallen and we’re not sure where to go from here. 7. A monks life is just looking very attractive right now.

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Thanks for being so forthcoming, Ed. It sounds like things have been very frustrating for you. I go into why men and women are having difficulty connecting right now: https://syngleeconomycs.substack.com/p/parallel-universes-why-singles-struggle

If you chose to be a monk as a part of a life goal, that would be great. If it's not what you truly want, then you'll run into more frustration.

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Thank you. I have chosen a monks life.

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Look overseas.

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Lol! Nice.

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